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And if you think that I’m still holdin’ on to somethin’ you should go and love yourself. You know what, even though Justin Bieber sang this kind of sarcastic, it’s truly important to learn how to love yourself. I’ll help you with this! Go check out this post and see the 5 tips I gathered for you to successfully learn how to love yourself.
In one of my recent blog posts, 10 ways to successfully invest in yourself, I mentioned quickly how important it is to love yourself. I realized this myself because of one of my best friends Anna, who is just starting her own business The Spiritual Atlas. She is the sweetest soul and helps me so well with finding myself, positivity, personal development, and self-love.
Anna is literally born as a coach, we’ve been friends for years now and she’s one of the first people I go to if I need advice. I couldn’t be more proud of her for using her talents and followed her dream: her own business! Even though Anna focuses her business on Dutch clients right now (this might change in the future so if this sounds interesting to you, write it down or give her a follow), you definitely want to give her Instagram the.spiritual.atlas a follow because she shares gorgeous crystals, tips, and much more.
Today’s blogpost is all about how to love yourself and I’m sharing things Anna taught me as well as some of my own expierences through the years.
Why is Self Love Important?
I can imagine that you may not have an idea of why self-love is important. Well, have you ever heard the quote: “You can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself”? People are saying that for nothing. The simple truth is that you cannot properly take care of others until you take care of yourself first. When you fully love yourself, this gives you the opportunity to move through the world with a deeper compassion for others.
True self-love is validating yourself. It’s giving yourself unconditional respect, appreciation, and evaluation of being great! It’s reminding yourself that you deserve to have all your personal needs met while considering yourself as worthy, valuable, and deserving of happiness.
Its confidently knowing that no matter what, you’ll always love yourself, be true to yourself, and be your OWN number one fan.
How To Love Yourself
Self-love is a practice, it is something you learn and implement into your everyday life. And it’s not always going to be easy. You may have to change habits that are so deep-rooted in you. But that’s okay because remember you’re worth it and you deserve to truly love yourself.
1. Avoid Negative Self Talk
I’m probably not the only one who notice that I’m talking negative about or to myself very often. When I make a mistake, my head easily goes “oh Simone, you’re so dumb ugh!” but this is obviously not very loving. Would you say that to your best friend when she makes a little mistake? Probably not.
I started focusing on how many times I talk or think negatively about myself and if I notice it, I’ll try to change that thought to something more kind. Instead of thinking that I’m so dumb, a better thought would be: “that might not have been the smartest move but it’s okay, I’m learning from it” or “we all make mistakes, it’s okay! I’m not dumb, I just learned something new!” Sounds better, doesn’t it?
2. Accept Your Feelings
It’s okay to feel sad, tired, overwhelmed, angry, etc. and it’s better to accept these feelings and emotions instead of fighting against it. Let those feelings be and be kind to yourself. Try to sit down and ask yourself where these feelings are coming from. You can write them down if you like to or talk to someone who you trust. This can help you with releasing them. If not, don’t beat yourself up over it. Read tip 1 again. 🙂
3. Be Proud of Yourself
I always had a hard time being proud of myself but now that I’m celebrating every little win, even if they’re super small, I feel like I start being more proud of myself. It’s not cocky to be proud of yourself, even though we often think it is. It’s an ikmportant part of loving yourself, because you did a good job so you deserve to be proud of yourself!
Be like me and celebrate every little win, especially if you’re struggling with mental health issues this is a great practice. I’m celebrating things like cleaning my room, walking the dog, doing my makeup when I didn’t feel like it, etc. It’ll make you feel better about yourself!
4. Leave Toxic Relationships
Toxic relationships can be so bad for your confidence and self-love. If you have people around you who only bring you down or have a negative mindset, you will get drawn into it too. I’ve had people around me who wanted to be better than me in everything and I started to believe that I was indeed less worthy. Once I left those toxic relationships, I felt so much relief and space to work on loving myself again.
The relationships I’m talking about aren’t only your girlfriend/boyfriend, it could be your best friend or even a family member. It’s not always easy to fully leave a relationship if it’s a family member for example, but at least try to avoid that person as much as possible.
5. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
Last but definitely not least, try not to compare yourself to others. Not everyone’s journey looks the same. Oh and let’s not forget that people make their life look better on their social media accounts anyways. You’re following your own path and you’re good as you are!
Do you struggle with how to love yourself? Or do you have additional tips? Let me know in the comments.